Love thy neighbour, but pull not down thy hedge.

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Meaning in plain English

Care for your neighbour while keeping sensible boundaries. Goodwill and cooperation do not require giving up every distinction between your own space, needs and responsibilities and theirs.

What the words are saying

The hedge marks a boundary between neighbouring properties. Keeping it while loving a neighbour suggests that affection and limits can coexist. Removing every boundary may create uncertainty about access, privacy or responsibility, making a previously friendly arrangement difficult. The proverb can also apply to non-physical limits, such as availability or lending. Its emphasis differs from simply avoiding people: the first instruction is to treat the neighbour with care. A useful arrangement allows help and contact while making expectations clear enough that neither person must guess what the other has agreed to.

Everyday example

Neighbours agree to water each other’s plants during holidays but continue asking permission before entering one another’s garden at other times.

When to use it

Use it to combine neighbourly help with a clear and respectful agreement about access or responsibilities.

Agent-assisted editorial interpretation. This explains the words; it does not by itself verify their author or earliest origin.