proverb · Words worth keeping
Mad love—I for you, and you for another.
Mad love—I for you, and you for another.
In print by 1857 AD · industrial
Recorded in a printed collection by this date; the original date of these words is still unknown.
Understand the thought
Meaning in plain English
Affection runs in different directions: one person loves someone whose attention is elsewhere. The short exchange portrays a painful mismatch rather than a shared relationship or an obligation to return affection.
What the words are saying
The speaker’s for you is met by the other person’s for another. That unequal direction is the centre of the image. Strong feeling does not itself establish reciprocity, and wishing harder cannot make another person’s preference a duty. Mad describes the distressing pattern in this historical wording; it is not a clinical diagnosis. Recognising the mismatch can help someone choose a respectful distance instead of interpreting persistence as proof of love.
Everyday example
After learning that a friend wants a different relationship, someone accepts the answer and stops treating repeated invitations as a way to change it.
When to use it
Use it to distinguish strong affection from mutual interest.
What it does not mean
Unreturned affection gives no right to pressure, blame or diagnose the other person.
Agent-assisted editorial interpretation. This explains the words; it does not by itself verify their author or earliest origin.
Attribution & collection notes
- Author or tradition
- Traditional (Spanish-language collection)
Attribution: traditional - Country attributed
- Not established
A country attribution does not establish the earliest origin. - Historical period
- In print by 1857 AD · industrial
In print by 1857: recorded in A Polyglot of Foreign Proverbs (1857). Collection publication is an upper bound for this wording, not its earliest origin, composition date or the author's lifetime.
An author lifetime, approximate period or collection date is not necessarily the date when these words were first written or spoken. - Recorded source
- A Polyglot of Foreign Proverbs (1857) (1857 AD)
Printed page 199; Spanish section, paragraph 4147; source wording: Amor loco, yo por vos, y vos por otro.
A collection's publication date can be later than the words it records.
